I think the main issue is lack of patience and being too influenced by the expectations of others. As you mentioned, we can have material things with a tap of our fingers and a tap of our card but growth takes time and is not linear. Some days we will achieve big things like finishing a project at work or achieving a fitness goal, whereas others, getting out of bed is an achievement.
We need to embrace the zig zag line of life a bit more.
I think it’s a lot to do with the mindset ‘stuff’ you mention Ben.
We all know the most important person you speak to everyday is yourself! Self talk impacts our self esteem, sense of worth; ultimately how we position ourselves in what’s becoming an incredibly complex world. There is drive in us that wants get better, achieve more, strengthen connections but the tendency is to reflect more on the negative.
Focusing on the +1%’s doesn’t seem to hold as much value as it should.
This gave me some good perspective. I don’t think we take time to reflect on our improvements enough. If we set a goal to improve something and don’t quite reach it, yet we still improve, that should still be celebrated. Yet we get fixated on what we didn’t achieve instead of what we did. Irrelevant of how we think of the achievement or improvement, we still find ourselves in the same place, so we may as well celebrate/recognise what we have achieved because at the end of the day we are the ones who have to spend the most time with ourselves. May as well try to make it in a more positive mind set.
I don’t think many people have learned the value in it. Maybe like me, they’re worried that if they celebrate improvement but not achieving said goal it could lead to complacency and less motivation. Sounds silly, but it has been a genuine concern of mine in the past.
I think the main issue is lack of patience and being too influenced by the expectations of others. As you mentioned, we can have material things with a tap of our fingers and a tap of our card but growth takes time and is not linear. Some days we will achieve big things like finishing a project at work or achieving a fitness goal, whereas others, getting out of bed is an achievement.
We need to embrace the zig zag line of life a bit more.
100% and that’s why I reckon yearly reviews/reflections are so important because you can see past the daily zigs and zags
I think it’s a lot to do with the mindset ‘stuff’ you mention Ben.
We all know the most important person you speak to everyday is yourself! Self talk impacts our self esteem, sense of worth; ultimately how we position ourselves in what’s becoming an incredibly complex world. There is drive in us that wants get better, achieve more, strengthen connections but the tendency is to reflect more on the negative.
Focusing on the +1%’s doesn’t seem to hold as much value as it should.
This gave me some good perspective. I don’t think we take time to reflect on our improvements enough. If we set a goal to improve something and don’t quite reach it, yet we still improve, that should still be celebrated. Yet we get fixated on what we didn’t achieve instead of what we did. Irrelevant of how we think of the achievement or improvement, we still find ourselves in the same place, so we may as well celebrate/recognise what we have achieved because at the end of the day we are the ones who have to spend the most time with ourselves. May as well try to make it in a more positive mind set.
100% we should still celebrate but why do you think people don’t take the time to reflect?
I don’t think many people have learned the value in it. Maybe like me, they’re worried that if they celebrate improvement but not achieving said goal it could lead to complacency and less motivation. Sounds silly, but it has been a genuine concern of mine in the past.
At least you now know that's a silly way of thinking
Baby steps! Can't fix things you're not aware of.