I catastrophise (always think the worst will happen)
I want the distraction of social media
I think everyone is against me and that no one understands
I think in “black or white” and struggle to comprehend nuance
I feel like a failure
I think I’m lazy and that I should just try harder"
Thought you were talking about me here. Haha. I am the exact same.
It's like having fuel but slowly leaking engine oil. The fuel will keep the engine running. As you lose more and more engine oil, the engine will run worse and worse until you blow a hole in the head of your engine. Even then it might still limp home, but as you lose more and more oil, the operation of the car, while it is still operational, gets worse and worse.
I think one of the biggest problems, for me anyway, is I get caught up in all that is going on lose the ability to slow down, look at things objectively, reassess and reprioritise. If I have a to do list for the week, I will stay back at work on a Monday because my brain thinks I have to finish it all.
Once I get in that tunnel vision mode I get heaps done, but I sacrifice everything else and often unnecessarily so.
I like to be in front and feel like I am under control but for example I did 20 hours of work in the first two days of this week and now today and tomorrow I have sweet fuck all to do. But mentally I'm still a bit gassed from Monday and Tuesday to enjoy this spare time to the fullest.
Resonates strongly with me, I’m def the same when tired & run down (which tbh is pretty often!) Hope you’re starting to feel better this week! You’re absolutely right about the exercising with mates though to fill the cup. Had to pull myself out of a hole this week & that did the trick! Just. Keep. Moving 😊
"I stop being optimistic
I catastrophise (always think the worst will happen)
I want the distraction of social media
I think everyone is against me and that no one understands
I think in “black or white” and struggle to comprehend nuance
I feel like a failure
I think I’m lazy and that I should just try harder"
Thought you were talking about me here. Haha. I am the exact same.
It's like having fuel but slowly leaking engine oil. The fuel will keep the engine running. As you lose more and more engine oil, the engine will run worse and worse until you blow a hole in the head of your engine. Even then it might still limp home, but as you lose more and more oil, the operation of the car, while it is still operational, gets worse and worse.
Great analogy.
I think many people are like this, but sadly they think something is wrong with them, when there isn’t. Their just over tired.
I think one of the biggest problems, for me anyway, is I get caught up in all that is going on lose the ability to slow down, look at things objectively, reassess and reprioritise. If I have a to do list for the week, I will stay back at work on a Monday because my brain thinks I have to finish it all.
Once I get in that tunnel vision mode I get heaps done, but I sacrifice everything else and often unnecessarily so.
I like to be in front and feel like I am under control but for example I did 20 hours of work in the first two days of this week and now today and tomorrow I have sweet fuck all to do. But mentally I'm still a bit gassed from Monday and Tuesday to enjoy this spare time to the fullest.
Do you “lose the ability” or just need to “improve the ability”? And how do you know if you’ve gone down the right tunnel?
Yeah probably just need to get better at it.
That's the issue, I don't know until after the fact because I'm too focused on what I'm doing to rationalise or prioritise things properly.
I look forward to reading more Ben ☺️
Resonates strongly with me, I’m def the same when tired & run down (which tbh is pretty often!) Hope you’re starting to feel better this week! You’re absolutely right about the exercising with mates though to fill the cup. Had to pull myself out of a hole this week & that did the trick! Just. Keep. Moving 😊
Al l can say is "Stay tough Ben.
Like when you were playing, you will win through in the end "