Don’t be afraid to “be an idiot” (or look like one). That doesn’t mean be wreckless, it just means that you’re going to put your best foot forward but you know that it won’t be ‘perfect’.
Do it the way that feels right at the time, but be ruthless in your assessment of what you could have done differently or what you could do different next time.
I think you’re already pretty good at this, but it’s great that you’re continuing to seek improvement.
There is no such thing as no progress. Every step, no matter the direction, is progress as long as you take something from it and use it to sharpen, iterate, correct and adapt. You know the golden rules or have you forgotten?: go forward - no matter what. Continuity - do everything to maintain momentum when you have it. Adaptability- play what’s in front of you and solve problems. Communication- be as willing to listen as you are to speak. Team work- nothing gets done alone. Have fun. Easy. They’re yet to fail me ;)
If answering a question and needing a short space of time to collect your thoughts before answering, start with "Well..." rather than "umm..'. Also, there is nothing wrong with a short pause, before answering. You'll be amazed at how many people look up at you, because people are uncomfortable with pauses in conversation, but we should not. Andrew
Wrighty! Thanks mate and totally agree. I hate “ums “ and silence does create suspense and build’s anticipation to what your about to say next. Hope your well mate!
So what if some people think you've lost your marbles? They're not your people. Walk on by.
Perfect is over-rated and, I would venture to say, somewhat suspicious. Authenticity is the goal, and you risk obscuring that if you try too hard to mask your passion. I learned a fascinating trick to address perfectionism - I was a card-carrying member of that club! - which you may like to try. (Have I mentioned this? If so, apologies.)
Proofread your low-stakes* emails before sending but don't correct anything except the most egregious errors of content. Learn to live with the discomfort of not having everything perfect before it goes out. Observe the consequences. There will likely be none, or at least, nothing negative. Not only can you save yourself time and mental energy, you may also find that this comfort with sub-perfect output frees you to focus on goals of real value.
*Note that I said low-stakes emails. I'm not a monster trying to sabotage your life LOL
Not a tip as such, but I think this feeling will gradually fade over time as you continue putting yourself out there on this topic and get more comfortable with it. It might always be there to some extent, but less prominent. So keep going and good luck with the presentation!
P.S. When the impostor syndrome is strong for me or I feel like I should keep my head down and stay in my box rather than take a risk on something, I listen to this Tim Minchin song on repeat and it helps snap me out of it!
So good! There’s a bit in that video hat makes me realise why r4r is growing so fast and that’s - People like crowds because they can blend in and avoid being judged. Much easier to run with a pack then on your own... less chance of being judged. Ps: love this speech of Tim Minchins https://youtu.be/yoEezZD71sc?si=LNVMyMFWLaMS_BMI
Don’t be afraid to “be an idiot” (or look like one). That doesn’t mean be wreckless, it just means that you’re going to put your best foot forward but you know that it won’t be ‘perfect’.
Do it the way that feels right at the time, but be ruthless in your assessment of what you could have done differently or what you could do different next time.
I think you’re already pretty good at this, but it’s great that you’re continuing to seek improvement.
Thanks Skip
There is no such thing as no progress. Every step, no matter the direction, is progress as long as you take something from it and use it to sharpen, iterate, correct and adapt. You know the golden rules or have you forgotten?: go forward - no matter what. Continuity - do everything to maintain momentum when you have it. Adaptability- play what’s in front of you and solve problems. Communication- be as willing to listen as you are to speak. Team work- nothing gets done alone. Have fun. Easy. They’re yet to fail me ;)
They’ve yet to fail me too. Thank you mate ❤️
Hi Ben,
If answering a question and needing a short space of time to collect your thoughts before answering, start with "Well..." rather than "umm..'. Also, there is nothing wrong with a short pause, before answering. You'll be amazed at how many people look up at you, because people are uncomfortable with pauses in conversation, but we should not. Andrew
Wrighty! Thanks mate and totally agree. I hate “ums “ and silence does create suspense and build’s anticipation to what your about to say next. Hope your well mate!
So what if some people think you've lost your marbles? They're not your people. Walk on by.
Perfect is over-rated and, I would venture to say, somewhat suspicious. Authenticity is the goal, and you risk obscuring that if you try too hard to mask your passion. I learned a fascinating trick to address perfectionism - I was a card-carrying member of that club! - which you may like to try. (Have I mentioned this? If so, apologies.)
Proofread your low-stakes* emails before sending but don't correct anything except the most egregious errors of content. Learn to live with the discomfort of not having everything perfect before it goes out. Observe the consequences. There will likely be none, or at least, nothing negative. Not only can you save yourself time and mental energy, you may also find that this comfort with sub-perfect output frees you to focus on goals of real value.
*Note that I said low-stakes emails. I'm not a monster trying to sabotage your life LOL
I know you’re not an email etiquette sabotaging monster Sarah! 😂😂😂 will give that a try
Wow, That's great. do well on the presentation. if possible share the recording here to watch.
Thanks Dinesh. Will try to record it.
Mistakes are part of growth. Embrace them. Be yourself for the talk, the more authentic you are the more people will be able to relate to you :).
I need to get back into the habit of writing too.
I was just wondering that! Have really enjoyed seeing how much your writing has improved!
Not a tip as such, but I think this feeling will gradually fade over time as you continue putting yourself out there on this topic and get more comfortable with it. It might always be there to some extent, but less prominent. So keep going and good luck with the presentation!
P.S. When the impostor syndrome is strong for me or I feel like I should keep my head down and stay in my box rather than take a risk on something, I listen to this Tim Minchin song on repeat and it helps snap me out of it!
https://youtu.be/QshKJQQyCAE?feature=shared
So good! There’s a bit in that video hat makes me realise why r4r is growing so fast and that’s - People like crowds because they can blend in and avoid being judged. Much easier to run with a pack then on your own... less chance of being judged. Ps: love this speech of Tim Minchins https://youtu.be/yoEezZD71sc?si=LNVMyMFWLaMS_BMI
I’ve seen that speech before and had forgotten about it, love it!
Firstly l, there are many ways to write a letter or memorandum. Don’t stress over that .
Secondly, what are you doing with KPMG ? That should keep you fairly busy . Lots of focus and opportunity!
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