Great work mate. You probably don't realise how significant and important it is to hear a hard as nails front rower with a big alpha personality speak candidly about their own mental health challenges. From someone who has gone through similar struggles, it's so heartening to read your stuff and realise how these conditions are indiscriminate in the characters that they impact. Please bring back the regular posts, even (especially) on days when it's the last thing you want to do.
Thanks Paul. I had hoped that sharing my struggles (and how I got better) can help someone when their do it tough, as running out of energy and falling flat like I did can happen to anyone. Thanks for the encouragement and support. I'm starting to find a rhythm again with blogging so hopefully I can keep it up! Just can't run out of things to write about. Any suggestions?
No worries. It would be good to hear your thoughts on the future of Australian Rugby and you've said you will talk about that soon. Another good topic could be your perspective on coming into the consulting world. I've been involved in it throughout my career, and I think there are alot of myths around it. I think people would be interested in what is actually involved in the work, and to get a bit of an 'outsider's' perspective on it
Cheers Paul. Will keep the Rugby chat up along with sharing my trials and tribulations. My perspective so far has been that’s it’s great (KPMG have been awesome to me) but I’d love to hear your opinion of it and get some advice for a newbie starting out.
Great post and it made me reflect to the time where I called it quits on the music game. Obviously not an athletic pursuit but for the best part of 12 years, my identity had been wrapped up in being Milkbar Nick. There was always the expectation (self imposed) that music would be my career but I soon realised that the passion was no longer there and I started valuing my time more with friends and family rather than being up all night and sleeping all day.
For such a long time I felt as though I didn't have a purpose and never realised that it could be because I'd just lost a big part of who I was. Looking back on it, I probably was depressed and lost but didn't really have an outlet or anyone to talk to about it. It probably took about 5 years to really 'retire' Milkbar Nick and just be Nick. Would have been good to have gotten some help back then.
I've since had a psych to unpack the loss of my parents and the grief associated with it, as well as being a good father and partner. It's bloody hard but I feel I'm a stronger more resilient person because of it.
Anyway, really appreciate you sharing all this stuff. Good work :)
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your parents mate. That's something Breeny (the founder of R4R) can relate to (lost both his parents) but said the same thing about feeling a more stronger and resilient person having gone through such traumatic experiences. Glad to hear you where able to get help as evolving your identity while trying to be a good partner and Dad is a massive massive ask! Looking forward to chatting more about this at the Arc de Resilience in an hours time!!
Great work mate. You probably don't realise how significant and important it is to hear a hard as nails front rower with a big alpha personality speak candidly about their own mental health challenges. From someone who has gone through similar struggles, it's so heartening to read your stuff and realise how these conditions are indiscriminate in the characters that they impact. Please bring back the regular posts, even (especially) on days when it's the last thing you want to do.
Thanks Paul. I had hoped that sharing my struggles (and how I got better) can help someone when their do it tough, as running out of energy and falling flat like I did can happen to anyone. Thanks for the encouragement and support. I'm starting to find a rhythm again with blogging so hopefully I can keep it up! Just can't run out of things to write about. Any suggestions?
No worries. It would be good to hear your thoughts on the future of Australian Rugby and you've said you will talk about that soon. Another good topic could be your perspective on coming into the consulting world. I've been involved in it throughout my career, and I think there are alot of myths around it. I think people would be interested in what is actually involved in the work, and to get a bit of an 'outsider's' perspective on it
Cheers Paul. Will keep the Rugby chat up along with sharing my trials and tribulations. My perspective so far has been that’s it’s great (KPMG have been awesome to me) but I’d love to hear your opinion of it and get some advice for a newbie starting out.
Love what you’re doing here mate
Rossotron! I really appreciate that mate and hope all is well in sunny England!
Great post and it made me reflect to the time where I called it quits on the music game. Obviously not an athletic pursuit but for the best part of 12 years, my identity had been wrapped up in being Milkbar Nick. There was always the expectation (self imposed) that music would be my career but I soon realised that the passion was no longer there and I started valuing my time more with friends and family rather than being up all night and sleeping all day.
For such a long time I felt as though I didn't have a purpose and never realised that it could be because I'd just lost a big part of who I was. Looking back on it, I probably was depressed and lost but didn't really have an outlet or anyone to talk to about it. It probably took about 5 years to really 'retire' Milkbar Nick and just be Nick. Would have been good to have gotten some help back then.
I've since had a psych to unpack the loss of my parents and the grief associated with it, as well as being a good father and partner. It's bloody hard but I feel I'm a stronger more resilient person because of it.
Anyway, really appreciate you sharing all this stuff. Good work :)
Also GO THE BRUMBIES! haha
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your parents mate. That's something Breeny (the founder of R4R) can relate to (lost both his parents) but said the same thing about feeling a more stronger and resilient person having gone through such traumatic experiences. Glad to hear you where able to get help as evolving your identity while trying to be a good partner and Dad is a massive massive ask! Looking forward to chatting more about this at the Arc de Resilience in an hours time!!
Good stuff Ben. "Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up." Words to live by.
Indeed Alfred.