Working on passion pieces is hard because there is emotional attachment and any ‘hits’ are amplified.
Without getting to Buddha on things, mindfulness has been a great source of relief for me personally. Stop. Name the emotion. Explain/interview the emotion. Respond in an appropriate way.
I feel the same with uni Ben. When I went back to post grad study I had no expectations and then I was getting HDs and Ds and as a result I started striving to get them, and was disappointed with Credits and Passes. I've changed my expectations for this trimester :)
Maybe I just was never very ambitious or that I just didn't know what I wanted to do when I grew up but at no time have I ever been really super duper driven that I could focus so hard on one thing. I just love doing too many different things to ever put all eggs in one basket and attach my ego to it. Just enjoy the simple things and find pleasure in nature and people. Variety is the spice of life after all. With no particular expectations of myself or what I'd get out of life I guess it's made me quite relaxed and calm. Not in the sense that I'm along for the ride but rather that I can observe as I go through life and make what I believe are the right decisions without any preconceived notions of what I should be doing.
As it is now I'm relatively successful in my career and not ashamed to say I'm probably a top 1% earner (not from inherited wealth!) but that's been more by just being good at something and a few lucky breaks with great colleagues along the way.
Maybe I could have been a world class athlete or science genius. I don't know. I don't care to be honest. I'm quite happy as is and have lots to look forward to in the future just being a nice bloke and making what I can of the opportunities that present.
Working on passion pieces is hard because there is emotional attachment and any ‘hits’ are amplified.
Without getting to Buddha on things, mindfulness has been a great source of relief for me personally. Stop. Name the emotion. Explain/interview the emotion. Respond in an appropriate way.
Learning to say NO is a skill. I include learning to say NO to yourself !
If something fails learn from it and understand. Many have try and failed. That doesn’t mean that they didn’t try to succeed or deserve to succeed.
Learn to say NO to yourself.
For me - sometimes it’s about working to get through each hour of the day and to keep taking steps forward.
I feel the same with uni Ben. When I went back to post grad study I had no expectations and then I was getting HDs and Ds and as a result I started striving to get them, and was disappointed with Credits and Passes. I've changed my expectations for this trimester :)
Maybe I just was never very ambitious or that I just didn't know what I wanted to do when I grew up but at no time have I ever been really super duper driven that I could focus so hard on one thing. I just love doing too many different things to ever put all eggs in one basket and attach my ego to it. Just enjoy the simple things and find pleasure in nature and people. Variety is the spice of life after all. With no particular expectations of myself or what I'd get out of life I guess it's made me quite relaxed and calm. Not in the sense that I'm along for the ride but rather that I can observe as I go through life and make what I believe are the right decisions without any preconceived notions of what I should be doing.
As it is now I'm relatively successful in my career and not ashamed to say I'm probably a top 1% earner (not from inherited wealth!) but that's been more by just being good at something and a few lucky breaks with great colleagues along the way.
Maybe I could have been a world class athlete or science genius. I don't know. I don't care to be honest. I'm quite happy as is and have lots to look forward to in the future just being a nice bloke and making what I can of the opportunities that present.