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Ian's avatar

Only my opinion, but yes, I think you have probably spread yourself too thin.

I never played sport at a high level like you did, but i was good enough at it that on occasion people would mention it or say something that made me realise that it was "my thing that i was good at". Ever since, i have been chasing similar validation/recognition/success and almost entirely failed in finding it.

As a result, i have been perpetually chasing the new high tide mark, the new "my thing that i am good at. Going down many dead ends and beating down myself because of it.

My wife assures me that being a good dad is my current special skill, and she is right. But it is very hard to simplify my ambition sometimes. For your situation, maybe Instead of thousands/millions of people looking up to you a little bit, maybe the goal should be to have a small group of the most important people look up to you a lot? Family, friends, staff etc. The public eye is off you much more now than it was, maybe accept the reduced pressure and find your diversity and challenges in smaller details?

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Sam Wilson's avatar

It's bloody tricky, eh?

How do you figure out what you love to do without trying a variety of different things?

But how do you know you really like something until you've been able to spend a decent amount of time doing it?

How do you spend enough time doing something to be great at it without compromising trying other things your curious about?

This comment will help you in no way, haha. But at lest you know you are not alone in this way of thinking, I imagine it's pretty common. My advice, go with your gut and don't second guess anything.

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